表达质疑

  1. Im not sure what youre saying has any relevancehere.2.Im not sure if what youre saying has anything to do withourproblem.3. Im not sure if what youre saying really mattersinthis case.4. Im not sure if what youre saying is relevant toourproblem.Relevance 是关联；适切，词组用法为haverelevanceto...（与…有关）。

这句话适用于正式场合，表示对方所言与议题并无关系。开头语由于是 Im not sure而不是I don't think，因此可避免直接对峙的场面。不过这句话易造成不是对就是错的局面，因此如果对方辩得有理，自己会有全盘皆输的危险。

　　暂不回答1. I cant really recall; Ill have to get back to youonthat.2. I cant quite remr; Ill need to do a little checkingandget back to you.3. I cant fully remr; Ill have to check uponit.4. I cant recall all the facts; Ill have to get backtoyou.Recall 是想起；get back to someone onsomething的意思是下次再和某人谈某事。这个句型适用于想避而不答、以免不慎的回答落人口实之时。它能让对方不再把矛头指向你，使你有机会脱身，找时间准备数据。

　　询问意见1. Would anyone like to add anything to (what Ivesaid)?2.Would anyone care to comment?3. Would anyone like to givetheirideas on this?4. Would anyone care to add their thoughts (tothediscussion)?这类句型是请他人发表意见，来补充自己的看法。由于用的是add（补充）而非comment（批评），暗示请发言者站在自己的角度，再作补充，而非给予大家较大的空间，任由批评。这也是add一词所藏的玄机。　More邀请发表意见在会议桌上，身为主持会议者，通常都需要主动且积极地征询各路英雄的想法及提案；在集思广益下决定出最适当的方案。适合对个人的邀请Whatareyour views on...?What are your feelings about...?What areyourfeelings on this?What do you think about...?Whats youropinionabout that?适合对全体的邀请Any reaction to that?Has anybody anystrongfeelings about/ views on that?Whats the general view on/feelingabout that?Has anybody any comments tomake?重点提示A.座前有桌子时，把手放在桌下是不礼貌的。小时候长辈教训的站有站相，坐有坐相，不无道理。挺胸而坐不但有精神，也是尊重他人的表现。瘫坐在椅子上，会让对方觉得不正式、缺乏诚意，甚至不尊重。如果您是坐在桌前，就将手肘轻放在桌上，让人看到，以表示无所隐藏；此时，手掌可交握，或手指相碰，不慌不乱，这种姿态代表专注与尊重。B.说话时，不自觉地摸鼻子，表示对对方有所保留，不愿坦诚。如果对方有摸鼻子的习惯，或不经意地触摸脸部，从潜意识的观点来看，这表示对方正筑一道墙，隐藏真心，不赞同你的意见。而搔头，除了表示头皮痒，还有不懂的含意。此时，不妨轻描淡写地把话再说一次，避免直接问对方是否不懂。C.如何利用姿势强调说话的语气?过去生意人所采取最强势的身体姿态，即是将双手搁在腰际，一副随时要拔枪的样子；除此之外，双腿还要分立，相隔一尺半。不过时代变了，现在所强调的是合作与协调，新的强势姿势是用手握住另一只手，将手靠在身体一侧，这表示坦诚、弹性。此外，利用姿势可以强调说话的语气，如双腿分立，右脚微微向前，强调重点时前倾；而放松时则可后倾将重心放在左脚。(实习编辑:顾萍)???tH??6beandwhen you know where that is, you have a much stronger,concentratedpath to where you want to be.

　　3. Build your personal brand 建立你自己的优势

　　Recruiters noted many things workers can do to become thejobcandidate. No employers worth their salt would passup(他们是不会拒绝能胜任的员工的). The first was to figure out what sets youapartfrom anyone else that applies for the same job.

　　What do you want to be known for in your field? Do you want tobean innovator? If so, continually point back to places whereyouhave innovated, and what your managers thought of it. Competencyinchange management helps here.

　　4. Make yourself known 要懂得推荐你自己

　　Give yourself the opportunity to become known, through a numberofdifferent channels. You could speak at industry events, youcouldhook up with your own internal media or PR (public relations)folksand let them know you want to get your knowledge out there,and athird thing is if you have the ability to write, becomealetter-to-the-editor or writer in trade magazines, lettingpeopleknow what you think.

　　5. Refresh your personal connections 有效利用人际关系，找个合适的推荐人

　　If you know someone at a company where you would like towork,this is the time to give them a call.

　　The holidays are a great time to position yourself for thenextopportunity. Go out there and make sure that youre extendingyournetwork through systematic and periodic communication. Talk tothepeople that have been important in your career and when youconnectwith them, find out what the market is like and wheretheopportunities are.

　　The center references can carry a lot of weight when a workerislined up against equally worthy candidates.

　　6. Focus your search 集中精力找一个工作，避免漫无目的的撒网

　　Most recruiters and hiring agents agree that sending resumesinblindly to companies gets applicants the least amount ofattention,if any. Using a personal connection to get intr_Ё?